- Affirmative Consent begins with you
- talk about "Yes Means Yes" before acting
- show respect Always Discuss mutual consent
Attitudes about sexual encounters are changing. The old standard of "no means no" is being replaced by a new standard of "yes means yes."read more
In this new era what constitutes affirmative consent in the moments of a sexual encounter is not always clear to both parties. Discussion is required.
what we do
Who we are
We are the affirmative consent member division of ISCE.edu -- a group devoted to changing the societal conversations around sexual interactions.
ISCE.edu is an educational research organization.
How we work
We provide our members with the
We-Consent™ mobile app to encourage discussion about affirmative consent between intended sexual partners . We also work to encourage societal conversations about mutual respect and the need for affirmative consent.
Use Our Apps
Discuss Affirmative Consent
We accept both individual and group memberships. Join us. Get your group or team to join.
We welcome participation by groups and teams. Encourage those you know to join us.
Tell people about the Appsread more
One purpose of the apps is to change the discussion. Tell people how the apps can help couples express mutual respect. Changing social norms begins with you.
Become A Member
Members get the We-Consent™ App Free
Our members are provided with the We-Consent™ App as a part of their membership.Join Here
Members are also given discounts on purchases of What-About-No™ and Changed-Mind™ licenses. In addition members are given a monthly newsletter and access to ISCE.edu's academic research tools.
For Groups and Teams
Group leaders, teachers, and coaches can get a group membership at a reduced rate. Group members have all the privileges of individual members.
Group leaders have the opportunity for added communications directed at their specific members.
All members of the Affirmative Consent division of ISCE are joining a membership based educational research institution established in 1999. ISCE is registered as a 501(c)(3) public charity with the IRS.Sign Up Your Group
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Regarding the We-Consent™ App
Sexual encounters are emotional and muddled enough without the added pressure of "what are the rules going to be tomorrow".
Mutual respect means that the dangers of misconstrued intentions, muddled emotions, and confusing dialogues must be dealt with up-front BEFORE any activity is undertaken. Both parties need to be clear that consent is freely given and be willing to be "on the record" regarding such consent. Respect will accept nothing less.
Mutual respect means respecting the decisions made to engage in whatever activity was agreed to. One always has the ability to change one's mind about what the event means: even after the encounter. But, reevaluating meaning does not mean retroactively withdrawing consent.
WE-CONSENT™takes less than 20 seconds to use and creates a seven year encrypted record of a mutual "yes" available only to law enforcement, upon judicial order, or as evidence in a college or university sexual assault disciplinary proceeding.
The very option of creating a record demands a discussion of affirmative consent itself. Creating a record provides a much needed mechanism for sharing intentions and requesting permission. It offers a new clear opportunity to say "no" along with the invitation to say "yes."
Mutually respecting couples will engage in this explicit discussion. They may then decide that a record of consent is unnecessary. We-Consent™ is a tool to put that conversation front and center. There is no other way for social norms to change.
All members of the Affirmative Consent Division are provided with a free copy of the We-Consent™ App.
WE-CONSENT™takes less than 20 seconds to use and creates a seven year encrypted record of a mutual "yes" available only to law enforcement, upon judicial order, or as evidence in a college or university sexual assault disciplinary proceeding.Videos are NOT otherwise available to users.
The App asks the first user for his/her name and then the name of the intended partner. It then instructs the user to find the partner and point the back camera of the phone towards that partner's face. The partner is asked to state her/his name and is then informed that the original user desires sexual relations. The partner indicates "yes" or "no". In the absense of a definitive "yes" the App will destroy the videos and ask that the users try again.
With a few clicks and the word "yes", WE-CONSENT™ creates videos of both parties consenting to sexual relations with each other and sends those videos off for secure storage.
If one party says "no," the video record self-destructs. Once sent to storage, video records from WE-CONSENT™ are stored off line and thus away from the prying eyes of hackers. Even the user cannot casually obtain a copy of these videos -- preventing the potential invasion of privacy implications of them being circulated.
You can see a demo of the WE-CONSENT™ App
in use here.
You can see instructions for how to use the WE-CONSENT™ App here.
What-About-No™ is presently available as an iPhone App in the Apple App Store here.
What-About-No™takes less than 10 seconds to use and creates a seven year encrypted record of a viewer watching a "no" video which is available only to law enforcement, upon judicial order, or as evidence in a college or university sexual assault disciplinary proceeding.Videos are NOT otherwise available to users.
The App asks the user to locate the person to whom the no message is to be delivered. It then instructs the user to show the screen of the phone to that person while the "no" message is played. At the end of the "no" message the video of the person watching is encrypted and uploaded to the cloud. The person watching is informed that this has occured.
Changed Mind™ App
Changed-Mind™ is a "gentler" version of the What-About-No™ App. [coming soon]
Changed-Mind™ makes use of the user's own voice and video to record a "not now" message which functions in the same manner as the "no" message in the What-About-No™ App.
Both the What-About-No™ App and the Changed-Mind™ App are offerings from our working partners at we-Consent LLC. The Changed-Mind™ App is scheduled to be available sometime this summer.
You can see a demo of the What-About-No™ App
in use here.
You can see instructions for how to use the What-About-No™ App here.
Privacy Is Important
Sexual encounters and the discussions leading up to them are private. WE-CONSENT™ helps both partners keep it that way.
Privacy means that the record of any explicit discussion about an intended sexual encounter needs to be unavailable to others except when there is a legal reason to disclose it. Such privacy helps ensure that both parties will be clear that consent is freely given and be willing to be "on the record" regarding such consent. Respect is meaningless in the absence of privacy.
WE-CONSENT™ uses the encryption on your phone and then applies a second level of encryption prior to off-line storage. No video records are preserved on your phone. No record is created in the absense of a clear "yes" message.
WE-CONSENT™ videos are private. Each encrypted record of a mutual "yes" is available only to law enforcement, upon judicial order, or as evidence in a college or university sexual assault disciplinary proceeding.
No video is available to be circulated in a casual manner. Videos are NOT available to even the users except as provided above. All videos are encrypted and stored off-line.
WE-CONSENT™ does generate an email message upon each use, but that message contains no data about the user's nor the partner's identity. We-Consent™ destroys any record which does not contain an explicit "yes." These privacy rules are designed to promote safe discussion of affirmative consent.